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How can we be both unique and identical?

3/7/2021

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We hold these truths to be self-evident:

  1. We are all alone in the world and nobody can understand our challenges, our suffering or our fears.
  2. We understand everybody else’s challenges, their suffering and their fears. Even more, we know exactly what THEY need to do in order to fix their lives.
 
One of our greatest skills as human beings is the ability to hold both of these views at the same time, often within the same conversation, sometimes within the same sentence. If mental gymnastics was an Olympic event, we’d qualify for Team USA.
 
In reality, though, each of us is a sample size of one. That makes each of us unique, but it also means none of us is an average Jane. We’re all empowered by and trapped in the circumstances of our lives and our journeys, so we all see things a bit differently.
 
In my corner of the world, the Coronavirus is real, the state is woefully behind in managing the vaccination rollout, local businesses are suffering along with their landlords, and very few people are arguing about masks. When I’m writing these posts, that state of the world is part of my foundation, even though it might not be a match for a good number of readers.
 
Many of you live in areas where the economies have stayed open almost nonstop or in places where wearing a mask, or not, is cause for a confrontation. For all of us, our sense of how the pandemic is unfolding will draw more from what we see in our personal lives than from the news. Yes, we’ll read the stories and check out the videos, but the sources we pick and the way we interpret the news will depend heavily on what we, individually, think is the reality.
 
If we know people who have battled Covid, or lost the war, we’re more likely to take the whole thing very seriously. If we don’t know anyone who has had to deal with the situation, it’s more remote and less threatening. There are tons of exceptions, because each of us brings unique combinations of experience to the conversation, but all of us tend to focus more on our own friends, our own communities, our own challenges.
 
That’s the crazy part about all our interactions with other people. We think we’re talking to someone else who is like us, but we might be mis-communicating about almost everything. We’re usually aware of it when we’re talking to a doctor or a lawyer or some other specialist whose language is clearly different from our own. The gaps are less obvious when we’re engaged with someone who looks and sounds like us, but brings a whole different set of baggage to the journey.
 
Sometimes the differences are small enough that they don’t get in the way. Other times, you and your conversation partner are both fluent in English, but you’re speaking a totally different language. We can’t find a way to make our points effectively, because we don’t see the other person’s filters.
 
Before we can understand someone else, and be understood by them, we need to know a bit about what makes them unique. Otherwise, we’re just talking to ourselves.
 
 
As we enter our fourth year of the Dad Writes experiment, we hope you’ll sign up as a subscriber and that you’ll join in the conversation. We know we’ll benefit from your unique perspective.
 

1 Comment
Steven Thomas
3/7/2021 10:55:53 am

I think the greatest thing that has suffered lately Michael is the ability for us to use human reason and also to be able to communicate on both sides of an issue without allowing emotion to cripple our ability to understand each other. You and I probably come from different sides of the aisle on some issues, but we can still talk to each other without becoming offended. Whether you believe the virus is truly a pandemic and should be treated as such or it very closely mimics the pattern of past flu viruses you should be able to debate. I don't believe in coincidences and the rolling out of this virus when it did was very convenient and expedient for some. I have never seen a virus politicized like this before. Was it Rahm who said never let a crisis go to waste?

What is more deadly and even sinister in my opinion is the changing foundation of freedom in our country. The constitution is being stress tested like never before. You have a contingent of society that is trying to be silenced (never a good thing), people, no matter their persuasion must be heard, mask or anti-mask, pro-abortion or pro-life, or whatever the issue...the oxygen of a free exchange of ideas must flow through our Republic.

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