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On the other, other, other hand

3/1/2020

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Over lunch one day, a friend and I were discussing the challenges of leading people to the best decisions. He suggested that one way I am limited in that area is that I am too much a contrarian. In one group that we belong to, people anticipate that I will be the one to rain on their parades with challenging questions or comments. When I meet those expectations, my comments get discounted and my influence disappears.

He’s right about the impact of my actions, and I’ve seen this situation play out more often than I would like to admit. In fact, I know one guy who believes I am always wrong, because he believes I am always opposing the wisdom of the crowd. As a result, he becomes even more certain that he is correct if I say I disagree with his view. In his world, my accuracy is two steps lower than a stopped clock.

What if he’s wrong, though? What if the wisdom of the crowd isn’t always wise? What if the emperor is really a flasher?

Often, when people get together to make a decision, some ideas will gather momentum and others won’t. It’s not necessarily the value of the idea that drives that momentum, though. Sometimes, it’s espoused by a forceful individual, or it’s a view shared by two people in quick succession and the group dynamic flows from there. Once enough attaboys are issued, the idea becomes a truth destined to be chiseled in stone.

That’s where I join the conversation. I’m looking for the missing guest, the thing that should be considered and isn’t on the table. I’m trying to anticipate the unintended consequences of today’s big idea. I’m looking at how the ultimate audience is going to respond when the committee issues its report.
 
In fact, most of the time, I’m trying to figure out how to make the idea work in the real world.  And then, I open my big “contrarian” mouth.

How many customers do we have to acquire in order to make any money on this? What’s to stop Amazon from simply offering the same service and putting us out of business? What if Uncle Ernie decides to invest the money in a boys’ boarding school?

By the time I chime in, however, the train has left the station, that ship has sailed, and the chicken has crossed the road. My question becomes the final evidence that this is the best idea ever. “We all believed it was a great idea and then, even better, Rosenbaum didn’t like it. Pure gold!!!”

Time for some introspection. If I’m trying to help a person reach a better conclusion, but my approach often leads to a suboptimal decision, shouldn’t I change my tactics? Perhaps I should be more active in the chorus of attaboys when someone makes an inane comment like, “let’s break the mold,” or “we dare to be different.” Should I be more manipulative in the pursuit of a greater good, or is that one of those slippery slopes they talk about in law school?

​So, thanks to my friend for giving me something to consider in terms of the way I’m perceived. I’m working on it. Meanwhile, I keep thinking about the guy who has concluded that my disagreement is proof of his brilliance. There’s a great prank in here, somewhere.
 
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2 Comments
Jerry Meyerhoff
3/2/2020 08:59:42 am

Mike , agree, being a predictable contrarian has lost its effectiveness in causing people to think critically about the proposal on the table. Agree a new tactic is needed. Perhaps doing some behind the scenes , " shopping the idea" in advance with the proposer? Building adbance alliances with other committee members ?
Yea being the consultant , brought in at the last moment is a tough role.
A clever engineer colleague always brought 3 proposals to the meeting. The 1st pretty poor and the committee happily killed it. The 2nd the same. Now the committee had satisfied their destruction needs. So humbly offering a third (his preferred ) the committee was sated for destruction and open to the new idea..

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David Brimm
3/2/2020 02:16:09 pm

I know a certain theater director who would agree with you. Pure gold!

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